Almost like, the books were written about me

Interference with your freedom or independence is abuse. If he causes you to lose a job or to drop out of a school program, discourages you from pursuing your dreams; causes damage to your relationships with friends or relatives; takes advantage of you financially and damages your economic progress or security; or tells you that you are incompetent at something you enjoy, such as writing, artwork, or business, as a way to get you to give it up, he is trying to undermine your independence. excerpt from Why does He Do that? by Lundy Bancroft

"If he causes you to lose a job or to drop out of a school program, discourages you from pursuing your dreams" As mentioned here, turning off the internet is a tactic he always uses to get to me in an arguement. I quit a job that I loved because he put too much pressure and set unrealistic expectations with me. I tried going to community college (2 separate times) and he would make life so difficult for me that I couldn't go. I tried one last attempt, which was night school, but he would ask why I'd be so committed to going to class, its probably because I was cheating on him with some guy at the school.

"...causes damage to your relationships with friends or relatives;" He used to get so mad when I would talk to my mom on the phone for any length of time. Now he has basically said he hates my best friend and I'm never allowed to invite her to our home. If I even mention that I want to do some kind of activity with her, he will punish me by starting an argument over something else.

"takes advantage of you financially and damages your economic progress or security;" Before we were married he pushed me into fixing up my car, paying for dinners or other things, and tell me that he would help me pay the credit cards that I'd use. When the bill came, he denied he even said that. He would even asked me if I thought money grew on trees, and that its my fault that "I" ran up all these bills.

"or tells you that you are incompetent at something you enjoy, such as writing, artwork, or business," Some of my girlfriends and I love to read. We decided to read books together, and meet to hang out and talk about them, a book club. He asked me why would we need to do that? He says its just an excuse to go shopping. I explained it to him its a way for me to have some time with my friends, enjoying the things that we do (whether its talking about books, shopping or just hanging out). He called it stupid and a waste of time. He even gets jealous when I read at home, saying that I would rather read than spend time with him. I don't have any other hobby. Reading is the easiest, most convenient stress outlet for me, but yet he wants to take it away, too. Just like any other thing I get into, I only get to do it a few times because the more I do it, the more hell he gives me for wanting time for myself. I am the point where I don't even try anymore.